Sunday, June 20, 2010

I've got a lot on my plate!

I'm failing miserably on my health plan. Damn, why do I always self-sabotague when it comes to eating right. I'm been making a lot of good choices over the past month. I've been packing my lunch almost everyday and eating it on the go.

I think I don't do well with healthy eating when I'm under pressure. I've got a lot on my plate at the moment (literally too, I guess)! I'M STRESSED!!!! I know that's no excuse for improper eating habits but it's times like these that make me cave and order a large plate of cheesy fries at Outback like I did last night. And then it's usually one bad day that spirals into two then three, well then you get the point.

I've got to give myself credit though for being honest and sharing this. I don't dare show you the bikini start photos (do I?) - trust me, you don't wanna see 'em!!

But now it's time for me to pick myself back up and keep on truckin'~!


Diana E.S. said...

Instead of trying to change everything all at once and be "perfect," make one change a week. I started with the one that gets me in the most trouble--eating out. I don't let myself eat out more than 2 times a week anymore. If I blow one of those at McDonalds, then I just have to suck it up and say no to dinner and drinks with friends.

Later, I introduced learning to cook one (or more) new food a week, no chocolate, a huge reduction in dairy (especially the fake cheese), no ramyeon (and other make at home junk foods), limiting alcohol to one night (two drinks) a week, exercising 5 days a week, and so on... each taking 2-3 weeks to adjust to without taking on any other new habits. Next up for me? giving up diet soda, introducing more fruits, adding some weight training to my exercise... maybe some other goals.

But trying to take all that on at once? NUTS. I've done that before and every single time it has failed. This time... I might fail for a few days, but it's only one new habit I'm failing in, so it's not as bad a backslide. I've lost 4 kgs in the last four weeks (the adjustment period before that didn't really help me lose weight, just started feeling healthier and getting more energy to do other stuff). Sometimes it's easy and I'll only need one week to adjust (like realizing that I already try to learn new recipes so it wasn't really changing a habit so much as bringing awareness to something I already do), and sometimes it's really hard and takes me 3-4 weeks to get the hang of (like chocolate--in the end I allowed myself the option to indulge once a week so I don't go crazy or just giving myself permission to do whatever exercise I feel like doing that day--swimming or hiking or biking or jogging--rather than trying to force myself to do the same one for all 5 days).

I know it's hard but I think trying to take on all those changes at one time is like begging to fail.

Anonymous said...

You're doing great! Just remember your goals. Changing your habits will not happen overnight or even over a month. I would recommend, when you have the time, to learn more about nutrition and gain an understanding of why we put food into our bodies. Once i learned that food is about energy it changed my life. I've lost 30 pounds and kept it off with ease for the past 1 and half. i still eat all the foods that i loved but i now have new favorites that are way healthier and keep me full for longer periods of time. Don't stress yourself out, You can do it!! Just remember everything is moderation (which includes not stressing out over dieting)

Shelley said...

I think Diana is right, and it seems her plan has worked for her. I don't believe in giving anything up permanently and I think it is a good idea to allow yourself to have a cheat meal once a week to get it out of your system. The all or nothing approach usually makes me go crazy and go on binges for days.
I say enjoy the cheesy fries, guilt free and then get back on that horse with the goal in mind that you'll eat healthy 5 more days before you have another splurge item.
I also agree in varying up your exercise routine. Living in India it is so difficult to have an y exercise regime. People don't much exercise here (at least in Korea hiking up to temples was an awesome work out). And when I lived in Korea I never had a hard time finding a variety of things to do to keep me in shape. I am doing the insanity work out at home, but the repetitive nature of it is leaving me unmotivated and wanting to stop.
Luckily I am going to Canada at the end of July for 7 weeks. My dad has a treadmill and a wide selection of weights. Plus the idea of finally being able to go out for walks with Yasmine is really exciting me. You just don't take walks here for fear of being run over by, rickshaws, cars, motorcycles, cows, camels, or people!
Keep up the great work Jenn, seriously you're doing awesome. Don't let one meal get you off track :)

Amanda said...

So you identified that stress makes you overeat. What other methods do you have of dealing with stress?

And I second everything Diana said.

Amanda Again said...

Did I just accidentally second everything you (Jen?) said instead of Diana? If I did, typo.

Kathleen said...

Great advice from everyone above. When you were posting the healthy meals, it did a lot to inspire me to make healthier choices! Thank you for sharing with us, you are doing great!

Melanie Kidder said...

Hi Jen,

As you know I have been working on my eating habits for about 8 months now. I have had quite good success but when I fail it is usually that "spiraling" thing that you speak of. I find that if I make a poor choice, like cheesy fries, then for a couple of days I think "oh well, I had the cheesy fries, this chocolate can't do much more damage than those did....I will start eating better again tomorrow. Then tomorrow comes and I mess up again and think, I will do better the next day, lol. That is how it happens for me. I find that what works better for me is if I 1) admit that I messed up and tell myself that it is okay, and 2) stop it at that one mess up. I need to stop the "spiralling" with the first screw up. If I don't, it can go on for a week and by then I've gained back 5 pounds and it is so hard to get back on track. Anyway, that is what I've learned, it might be the same for you but if it is hopefully this will help.

Amanda said...

Read something interesting last night in a book (INTUITIVE EATING) and I thought of your question: Damn, why do I always self-sabotague when it comes to eating right.

"What diet or diet counselor can possibly know when you are hungry or how much food it will take to satisfy you? How can anyone but you know what texture and taste sensations will be pleasing to your palate? In the world of dieting, personal boundaries are crossed at many levels. For example, you are told what to eat, how much of it to eat, and when to eat it. These decisions should all be personal choices, which respect for individual autonomy and body signals. While food guidance may come from elsewhere, YOU should ultimately be responsible for the WHEN, WHAT, and HOW MUCH of eating.

"So when a diet doctor or a diet plan invades your boundaries, it's normal to feel powerless. The longer you follow the food restrictions, the greater the assault to your autonomy. Here is where the paradox lies. When dieting, you will likely rebel by eating more--to restore your autonomy and protect your boundaries. But the act of rebelling can make you feel as out of control as a city riot. Instead, you have an inner food fight on your hands. But once the food rebellion is unleashed, its intensity reinforces feelings of lack of control and the belief that you don't possess willpower. Ultimately you begin to drown in a sea of self-doubt and shame. What begins as a psychologically healthy behavior, ends in disaster. Ultimately, weight loss is sabotaged as a result of personal boundary protection."

Melly Coco said...

I think i'm gonna start blogging about food too..

i know it's hard.. i love poutine too!!

Anonymous said...

First, YES, post your bikini pictures so you have a record of before-and-after.

Second, if you try to do too much at once, you WILL fail. Your body needs time to adjust to a change. Eating out or eating junk for a day or two does not destroy all your good days. Just breathe in and go back to the plan.