He knew that something was off. Upon opening the letter it didn't take long for him to realize what the problem was. Folded it up he quickly hustled out of my house.
I'm sure he was crying..........
The car ride to the restaurant was quiet. Who am I kidding, I had only known him for 2 months and because of his limited English ability it was always quiet. But this silence was not soothing.
"It was nice to meet you...........we have fun together.............I think you are a great guy............." I was rambling and I am sure he didn't understand what I meant, even if he was listening it didn't change the fact that I was leaving.
"Look, don't be sad..........we have 3 weeks left, so let's have FUN!!!!", that's all I could say really!!
I'll never forget his response when I asked him how he felt.
Last month (a whole year later) we made a trip down the same stretch of highway up to the same secluded restaurant. All the uneasy feelings of the last time rushed back making me feel impatient and uneasy.
But I was happy to know that this time around there was nothing standing in our way. No invisible boundaries, visa deadlines, Korean letters. As my friend says it best 'love is not between country to country, but rather person to person'. And that's what we are, two people in love -- simple as that!!!!
I'm so lucky to have someone who is able to make me laugh. Someone who looks at the bright side of everything. And someone who has loved me with an open heart from day one.
My mom is a pretty easy going person and it doesn't take much to please her. She's the type of person that finds pleasure in doing the most mundane things -- laundry on Sundays or, when unloading the dishwasher, counting how many spoons, knives and forks there are, for instance. I knew that she would like Sung Hyun (and I was right).
My dad on the other hand................well let's just say that I told Sung Hyun not to be surprised if my dad didn't have anything to say about him.
I think it was really important, for Sung Hyun, to have my parents like him. Afterall Koreans do place a lot of emphasis on their families and marriage is really not a union between couples (as it is in Canada) as it is between families. Let's face it, if Sung Hyun's mom/ 5 sisters didn't like me, then most likely Sung Hyun would not be dating me now, that's just the way it goes.
Anyways last week I received this email from my dad. And since I don't have a strong bond with him like I do with my mom, This letter meant the world to me.
So thanks dad. I love you.
suggest you should live in Canada, however ...
with respect to Gym Guy being in Canada - there are programs for
immigrants: ESL (English as a second language); training (SIAST - if
he likes doing what he is doing presently) and quite frankly an energetic
person would have a difficult time not getting a job in our present market
conditions. From what I saw - he appears to be an honest, sincere gentleman
- only you can decide if he is the one. (Your mother thought I was the one - her
mother certainly didn't feel the same way).
... but trust me on the sunscreen.